So do what a dog would do.
The next time your pup shy's away from a new situation, such as a guest entering your home, do not force the pup towards the person or allow the person to grab or keep going at or coxing your pup. Let the pup observe as they do in nature - until he or she feels comfortable to approach. Your pup is observing you and how you react-after all you are the pack leader.
In this way the pup is learning to trust its own observational skills and instincts and also sees that you have the skills to lead. After all, a good leader remains calm, sets the tone, encourages independence and self sufficiency-not dependency. Your puppy trusting you and seeing you as the leader, is tantamount in nurturing the secure, confident, well trained companion you want and need him or her to be.
As far as correcting bad behaivor such as grabbing a shoe or some other thing not allowed....Teach your dog like a momma dog would. Show disapproval with sound facial expression and gently but sternly push your pup away. Also add a human word -- this will begin transitioning your pup to understanding human words and communication, by associating your word with the canine sound- action and facial behavior you use.
Oh, and did you know that aromatherapy using essential oils has been shown to also help relax dogs ( Bell 2004 ). It is vital to provide an environment where your dog can remain relaxed, and that’s why Aunt Lyn’s Calming Cologne, in either regular or maximum strength, is a great chose. It not only works, and its portable! A few spritzes on the collar and you are ready for new adventures or a trip to the groomer or vet.